Woman Says Mother-in-Law Went Behind Her Back and Gave Daughter, 2, Her 'First Haircut': 'She Does What She Wants'

Woman Says Mother-in-Law Went Behind Her Back and Gave Daughter, 2, Her 'First Haircut': 'She Does What She Wants' https://ift.tt/4autMWK

The woman shared on Reddit that her husband's mother also sneaks her toddler daughter soda and candy

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A woman is upset after her mother-in-law robbed her of a special mom milestone — her daughter's first haircut.

In a post on Reddit's "Am I the A------" forum, the woman began by explaining that her husband's mother is "difficult to deal with," especially when it comes to boundaries with their 2-year-old daughter.

"The biggest problem I have with her is that she does what she wants with my daughter regardless of what me or my husband say," the woman explained, before citing some examples, including, "I’ll say no candy, she’ll give her two pieces. She sneaks her Coke and tea even after we’ve told her not to."

And while the woman said most of these oversteps are "harmless enough," she and her husband have learned to "watch our daughter like a hawk" when they are visiting at the grandmother's house.

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But, during a recent long weekend, the woman "let my guard down" and allowed her daughter to have some unsupervised time with the mother-in-law.

All seemed well, until a few days later, when the 2-year-old told her mom that her grandmother had cut her hair over the weekend. When the woman took a closer look, she could see that her daughter's bangs had been trimmed.

"That would have been my daughter’s first haircut," the Redditor lamented, noting that her mother-in-law did this against her wishes. "She mentioned a couple of times that my daughter needed a haircut. Me and my husband said no we did not want to cut her hair."

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When the woman confronted her mother-in-law about the haircut in a text message and informed her they'd be "going no contact for a while," she "denied everything" and then called her son "screaming and crying, saying, 'How can you believe anything a 2 yo says?' "

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The woman later edited her post to add that her mother-in-law "has a history of disregarding your wishes as a parent" and "is low to no contact with her step-grandchildren for this exact reason."

She concluded her post by asking the Reddit community, "AITA [am I the a------] for believing my 2.5 yo over my MIL?"

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In the comments section, many people were quick to suggest that the woman already knows the answer to her own question, as her mother-in-law has an established "habit of going against the wishes of a child's parent."

"You know this, she knows this. So how on earth can she expect you to believe her when it comes to your child?" one user wrote.

Another person chimed in to agree: "Your MIL has a history of ignoring boundaries and now she’s throwing a tantrum because she got caught. A 2-year-old isn’t plotting elaborate lies — she told you what happened and the evidence is right there on her head … If your MIL can’t respect basic parenting decisions she doesn’t get unsupervised time [with your child]."

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One commenter urged the woman and her husband to follow through on their intention to go "no contact" with their daughter's grandmother.

"Lots of grandmas like to sneak the kiddo a cookie now and then behind mom and dad's back — but that's not what you're looking at here," they argued. "You are looking at someone who is consistently and regularly opposing every directive you give about caring for your child just to prove that that she can do as she pleases."

Others, however, shared the opinion that the woman was overreacting.

"I also get that MIL is annoying and stomps over boundaries and gives your kids sweets when she shouldn’t. But no contact? Over sweets and cutting her bangs?" one Redditor wrote.

"It sounds to me like this isn’t dangerous or mean things that MIL is doing. Holy hell, my grandma sneaked cookies to me and I had the time of my life and it’s a cherished memory that I have," the same commenter continued. "Maybe there is more to the story, but you sound really harsh. Have all the boundaries you want, but also maybe give a little wiggle room for things that aren't actually dangerous."