Grieving Daughter Finds Unique Way to Honor Father’s Memory at Milestone Events (Exclusive)

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Mia Chard tells PEOPLE that what began as a simple way to honor her late father became a family tradition that helped her carry his love into life’s biggest moments

Mia Chard and her father; Mia’s father’s camera
Credit: Mia Chard (2)

NEED TO KNOW

• After her father died in 2018, Mia Chard began bringing his 1979 film camera to important family milestones
• The tradition helped her feel connected to her father as she navigated life without him
• She says sharing the story online encouraged thousands of people to open up about their own experiences with grief

When Mia Chard’s father died in 2018, she wasn’t looking for a grand gesture to cope with her grief. Instead, she reached for something that had always reminded her of him: his well-worn 1979 film camera.

The 43-year-old social worker tells PEOPLE that what began as a simple way to include her father in family milestones soon became a tradition she couldn’t imagine giving up. If he couldn’t be there in person, carrying something that had once belonged to him became the next best thing.

“My dad was one of my best friends,” Chard says. “The three of us — my mom, my dad and me — always called ourselves the Three Musketeers.”

Mia Chard and her father
Credit: Mia Chard

Their relationship grew even closer after her father became ill with liver disease. Chard accompanied him to medical appointments, and together they had conversations she says many families never get the chance to have before saying goodbye.

“I asked him if he was afraid to die,” she recalls. “He told me he wasn’t afraid of dying, but he would be sad because he would miss us.”

Those conversations stayed with her after he died. So did the lessons she says both of her parents spent years teaching her.

“They taught me kindness, compassion and service,” Chard says. “Those are the things I try to carry forward every day.”

As birthdays, holidays and family celebrations came and went, Chard started slipping her father’s camera into her bag before leaving the house. She wasn’t using it for every occasion. Simply having it nearby became its own ritual.

Mia Chard’s father’s camera
Credit: Mia Chard

“It was my way of having him with me,” she says. “If he couldn’t be there physically, I wanted him there emotionally and symbolically.”

That tradition continued when she married. Alongside the camera, Chard tied her father’s wedding band to her bouquet before walking down the aisle, weaving pieces of him into one of the biggest days of her life.

After the wedding, developing the film unexpectedly revealed double-exposed images from her brother’s 1999 graduation layered over the new photographs. Chard shared the discovery on TikTok, where the video quickly resonated with millions of viewers.

What surprised her even more than the response was what people chose to share in return.

Instead of debating how the double exposure happened, many strangers wrote about the parents, grandparents, siblings and friends they still look for in everyday life. Others described the small traditions they had created to keep loved ones close long after they were gone.

Reading those stories changed the way Chard thought about grief.

Mia Chard at her wedding
Credit: Mia Chard

“I hope others can see just how connected we all are as human beings,” she tells PEOPLE. “I hope they feel their own lost loved ones near and look for ways to remember them.”

She says the response reminded her that grief doesn’t have to be experienced alone.

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“Healing can come in community,” Chard says. “When people share their stories, it reminds us that love doesn’t end when someone dies.”

Years after first picking up her father’s camera, Chard still brings it to the moments she wishes he could witness himself. The tradition has never been about replacing his absence, she says. It’s about making room for his memory as life continues.

“Love and loss are intertwined,” Chard says. “The more deeply we love someone, the more deeply we grieve them. Carrying my dad’s camera reminds me that even though he’s gone, the love we shared is still part of every milestone.”